8 ways to get out your comfort zone
Have you ever wanted to apply for a job, but didn’t think you were well suited for a job? How many times have you gotten upset with yourself because you were too shy to network with someone that could help you in the future? Or do you find yourself retracting to your phone when you are in an environment you’re not comfortable with?
It is natural to feel fear and intimidation, but do not let that hinder you from accomplishing your goals. Everyone needs that push every once in a while that will help them get out that zone of comfort. When most people think of change, they think of their whole life being shifted into something else. This is hardly ever the case. Normally changes occur gradually over time until one day you look back and see all your progression.
A little bit of fear is definitely good because sometimes it can protect you from danger; however once you allow your whole life to be consumed with fear, you can never reach happiness and growth. Here are some steps to take with you on your journey of progression:
Revamp your wardrobe
Ever heard the saying, when you look good, you feel good? Well this is very much true. By changing up your appearance every once in a while, people look at you in a whole other light. It can be really easy to get comfortable in your own style and not want to change it up, but switching it up can definitely help you feel better about yourself.
Have a day where you and a friend go shopping and you guys pick out each other’s outfits. Your close friend has your best interest at heart, so let them help you. Your image is a reflection of what you attract. When you look nice, you tend to gain a sense of confidence that drives you to prosperity.
Imperfect is perfection
Let go of the idea that everything must be perfect. What happens once you have gotten that car or that beautiful house or even that dream job? We tend to be content with being content right? Once everything starts to go good, that is when people tend to find that comfort zone and stay in it. In order for you to conquer something new, you need to let go of the notion that just because everything is good, you are good.
No matter how perfect your life gets, there will always be room for improvement. Don’t think just because you have gotten where you need to be, then you must stop. Find other aspects of your life to advance in and I guarantee you will be much happier.
Learn something new
I cannot count the number of times I have spoken with people older than me and they always say “I wish I would’ve done this while I was younger”. Don’t let that person be you. Nothing is more exciting than finding a new hobby that you enjoy. Interested in fitness? Join a Zumba class. Interested in food? Take on a cooking class. Want to boost your confidence? Pole dancing classes are great for that.
There are so many classes and opportunities that are presented around us every day and we always tend to overlook it. Do your research because a lot of the time, these classes and programs are offered at a discount rate or sometimes even for free.
Find a mentor
A person who has been in a certain career for a long time, is the best person to get advice from. They are able to tell you the ins and outs of what to expect and how to deal with it. I found my mentor through my internship with The SOA Brand and I know I will always have a mentor in her even if I decide to switch my career interest. Meet with your mentor at least once a month and give them an update on what is going on.
They care and they want to know how you are holding up. If you have an idea, but you’re not so sure how to go about it, ask your mentor for help because most of the time they probably known someone who can help you, if they can’t. Look for a mentor that motivates you to try new things and is willing to help you step out that comfort zone.
Pursue your passion
What do you really love to do? I don’t mean your career or that part time job, I mean your burning passion. I noticed that a lot of times people go into college wanting to pursue their passion, but come out with some boring degree in something they care nothing about. Now that I am older, I finally see how that can happen. Schools tend to make students feel like if they don’t become an engineer, a doctor, or a lawyer, then they won’t measure up to the definition of success.
My advice is no one can define success for you other than you. Studies have shown that people do better when working on projects they enjoy versus something that was forced upon them. Safe is not always a good thing, so take yourself back to your happy place.
That moment you realized that doing the same things you were doing last year is not going to get you anywhere is what I call the “Blueprint Phase.” What are your short term goals? What are your long term goals? What do you want to accomplish in the next week? How are you going to go about reaching your goals?
These are all questions I ask myself when I’m making the blueprint of my life. No one should wake up one morning and expect their life to be figured out. You have to go out and make the connections, make the friendships, make the ties you need in order to be successful. The more you put your thoughts onto paper, the more you’re able to visualize them and speak it into existence.
People do not realize how much traveling can help you grow as a person. Seeing different cultures and how people interact with each other is such a humbling experience. In 2010, I traveled to Sierra Leone, West Africa and I can honestly say that was one of the best experiences of my life. Being in America we are so use to working, going to school, coming home and paying bills. The more money we make, the more problems that arise that stresses us even more.
The living conditions in Sierra Leone were very poor, but the people were so happy because they made time for their happiness. Spending time in new environments helps you realize how great or bad your situation is and also you realize how much growing you have to do. Life is all about growth and do not ever let finances discourage you. There are people in the world who do not have any money, but they try their hardest to have a fulfilling life.
Let them go
Before I even get into this one, please check out our blog (Life Detox-How to get rid of toxic people). We talked about all the signs and solutions when it comes to dealing with negative people. We all have that one friend who is the “Negative Nancy” of the group. Perhaps every time you tell her about your goals, she shuts you down before you even get a chance to finish talking. Those are the kind of people that keep you in your comfort zone and those are the kind of people you need to let go of now.
Not everyone in your life is meant to go on your journey. Take a deep scan of your circle and see who is helping you and who is hurting you. If those people are not adding value to your life, then I don’t see the point in having them present.
Remember, this is your journey. Nobody can hinder it and nobody can control it. Allow yourself to progress as a person and you will see how much happier you get. Rather than having an opportunity pass you by, take a risk and see where it takes you. What is the worst that can happen?
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”- Neale Walsh