Life Detox: How to Get Rid of Toxic People

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Life Detox: How to Get Rid of Toxic People

How many of you all have had that one friend or family member who always has something negative to say about your life? How many of you all feel scared to talk to your parents about changing your career path because you know they are going to discourage you? How many of you do not want to start your own business because everybody tells you that your chances of being a successful entrepreneur is not likely for you? If anything I have learned, it is that people are going to try to bring you down and listening to those people and staying in your comfort zone is not going to help you grow as a person.

All the people I have came across in my life inspired this post because they told me to take the easy route out because they didn’t think I have the will power to breakthrough in a competitive industry. Up until my high school graduation, I was so use to everyone telling me to go to college and be a nurse or to go to college and be an accountant. Believe it or not there was a time where I declared my major to be accounting because I didn’t think there was anything else I could get a business degree for. After I changed my major, it was hard for me to re-instill that confidence in myself because I constantly had people in my ear telling me I was wasting my time doing that major.

Now I don’t know if other business majors get this same reaction, but every time I tell someone I am a Business Management and Hospitality major, the first thing they ask me is “so what do you plan on doing with THAT”? And yes they actually say THAT with a smirk on their face. As humans we are constantly developing, so you cannot possibly say that in 5 years you are not going to want to do something different. The people closes to you are the ones that are going to bring you down 95% of the time because they swear they know you more than you know yourself. I get it, I’ve gone through it, and I know I’m going to go through it until I finally have that moment where I “make it”. I think everybody has that one person in his or her life that is more toxic than good, but this is how I would deal with it.

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Recognize the signs early

People show their true colors when you first meet them but as people we tend to ignore it because we want to give everybody the benefit of the doubt. Watch out for those people who always have something negative to say or you noticed that they are very insecure within themselves, so they try to bring you down with them. I had a friend one time that use to always ask me if I thought she was prettier than someone else and eventually I noticed that type of energy was rubbing off on me. Misery loves company. Half of the time people do not even notice when they are being toxic award others, it just happens. If someone in your life is always shooting your dreams, let it go. You deserve to be happy before anyone else.

A closed mouth does not get fed… neither does an ignorant mind

Now that you have recognized the signs, let them know how you feel. Something as simple as saying “I don’t like when you do that” can stir up a good conversation. As I mentioned people, toxic people do not realize that they are being toxic. They think that they have your best interest in heart and most of the time they do, but the way they present it makes all the difference. Not to mention that someone’s toxic behavior can become the principal reason for being sucked into his or her mind games. Speak your mind or else you would always be in their control. Tell them that everyone has noticed their behavior, and not just you; that way they don’t feel like it is a personal attack.

Keep it moving and don’t look back

I have dropped so many “friends” who have been negative influences in my life and it wont be an issue to drop some more. At the end of the day you have to do what is going to benefit you personally, financially, and spiritually because that is what everybody else is going to do. You have recognized the signs, took the next step in dealing with the problem, now it is time for a solution. If that person is still persistent in their behavior and has no intention in changing, then you need to let it go. People come in your life for a reason and some for a season. Do not allow yourself to be miserable because someone else does not feel good about himself or herself. When you delete toxic people out your life, it becomes much easier to breathe. Ask yourself “do I need this person in my life?” If the answer is no, then keep it moving.

It is them, not you

Toxic becomes you when you allow such people to continue to leech off your life. When your dealing with negative people in your life you have to understand that it is not your fault. They just do not know how to be any other way. Sometimes those people do not even mean harm, but it sure does come off that way. Remember there is a huge amount of peace of mind that comes when you take nothing personally. Do not let those other people make you feel any less than yourself! If you want to own your own business, make it happen and watch those people try to sneak their way back into your life. If you have the issue of not believing in yourself because nobody around you told you you could, understand that what you think of yourself reflects who you are.

Remember that at the end of the day, nobody has control over your happiness more than you do. One day you wake up and decide to own your own business, go for it. If one day you wake up and decide to take a semester off school to travel and explore the world, go for it. Do not let people constantly bring you down or have something negative to say about your plans. My father has always taught me that people will always hate on you when your seem to be doing the slightest bit better than them, but keep that up because when you finally make it, they wont know what to do with themselves.

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Stay progressing,

Tigi B.

“Protect your good image from the eyes of negative viewers, who may look at your good appearance with an ugly fiendish eye, and ruin your positive qualities with their chemical infested tongues.” – Michael Bassey Johnson

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