Why Bad Experiences Are Good For You

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Why Bad Experiences Are Good For You

Looking at bad experiences as learning opportunities instead of regrets.

How many times has something bad happened to you and you sat there mulling over why it went bad or regretting that the bad situation happened? We have a tendency to dwell on the negatives instead of the positives, but what does all of that dwelling get you? Depression? Anger? Bloated from too many spoonfuls of ice cream? It’s taken me a loooooooooooooonnnnnnggggggggg time to not dwell forever on the negatives, don’t get me wrong, I still think about and analyze them, but my learning curve has definitely shortened.

I know you would much rather feed into the negative Nancy mentality, but trust me, the following tips should help change your perspective and get you out of any slump or bad experience MUCH faster.

Why Bad Experiences Are Good For You


First is first, every bad experience is an opportunity to learn something. Think about it. When you were young and you put your hand on the hot stove, certainly it was a bad experience, but you learned to never put your hand on that hot stove again. When something happens, of course you should allow the emotional response to happen…I mean we’re only human…however don’t focus on the negative situation, look at the entire experience as a whole and ask yourself what you learned from it.

The best reality check you can have is when you check yourself. When you understand yourself and your flaws, no one can use it against you. We all have flaws and although we are aware of them, we don’t really know them or understand them. Take a hard look at yourself and think about times when someone may have said something about you or called you out and see if they maybe right. You’ll be less inclined to get defensive once you own up to your flaws.


They say the military shows you what you are made of. I’d like to think that bad experiences show you better what you are made of. You really get to see who you REALLY are when something bad happens to you. You learn if you are made for the industry you are in, you learn what makes you tick, you learn whether or not you want to do what you are doing,if you are a coward or not. Bad experiences are challenges that make us into the better versions of ourselves.

How many of our readers know how to motivate themselves? Like REALLY motivate yourselves? Have you ever found yourself massaging your temples and saying a mantra or chant or even singing to coax your mood back to the positive? Think about a time when you are really anxious about something that you just know is going to go bad, you try to convince yourself otherwise. Bad experiences force us to seek the positive in a situation. At the right times, try some of these mantras that work for me:

The Universe has my back.

This set back is just a set up for a come back.

I control how I will allow this experience to affect me

Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference

They say hindsight is twenty-twenty. Think about a time when you were in a tough situation, say a bad business client or relationship. In the moment, it is the worst thing that could have possibly have happened to us, but days or weeks or years later we think back about it and realize that the situation that seemed tough, at one point in time, was really the universe conspiring in our favor. It was the universe’s way of getting the people out of your life that didn’t need to be in it.


Bad situations are bad, yes. Are they detrimental to who we are and how we experience something similar in the future, absolutely! Will they kill us? NO! Bad experiences are good for us because they really make us better people by teaching us something new, forcing us to take a better look in the mirror, showing us what we’re made of, helping us to self-motivate ourselves, and of course helps us realize that the universe is actually working for us…all you have to do is change your perspective on “bad experiences.”

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